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Homeschooling Socialization: Social Skills in Homeschooled Children



Turkeys watching over a homeschooled child

One thing that I have desperately wanted to share with people since being on this homeschooling adventure is dispelling the myths and embracing the realities of socialization in homeschooling children. The socialization of homeschooled children has been a topic of discussion and, at times, has been misunderstood. In this exploration, we'll debunk misconceptions, delve into the evolving standards of socialization, and provide valuable insights for homeschooling families on fostering well-rounded social skills in their children. Since before I had my first son, I can't explain it, but I always knew I wanted to homeschool. One of my most frequently asked questions is "How will you socialize your kids?" I want to dive into that a little deeper!


Modern Approaches to Homeschool Socialization

Beyond Classroom Walls: Exploring Diverse Avenues

Community Involvement:

Group activity of a homeschooled class
  • Engaging in local community events, clubs, and organizations exposes homeschooled children to a diverse range of people and activities. This is so true! When we first started this adventure, we involved ourselves in many things. From Co-ops to sports, we did it all! We met so many friends and so many people that shared our passion for learning at home!

Sports and Extracurriculars:

  • Participation in sports leagues, music lessons, dance classes, or art programs provides avenues for structured social interactions with peers. Not only have we participated in Co-ops, but we have always participated in sports as well! My boys enjoy them so much. So many people think that if you are not in public school that you cannot participate in these activities and that is just not the case! We have been involved since day one!

Cooperative Learning:

Homeschool class participating in a group activity
  • Collaborative projects, group classes, and co-op learning environments enable homeschooled children to work with others, fostering teamwork and communication skills. Yes! There are just so many opportunities with collaborative learning! We absolutely love Co-ops! Co-ops allow for so many adventures and so many friends. Not only are the children benefiting from this, but the parents as well! Some of my dearest friends to date, are like minded people that I have met through these wonderful Co-ops! Not only does schooling happen, but lifetime friends are made! From Valentine's Day parties to Proms, these Co-ops offer something for everyone!


Online Communities:

  • Virtual platforms and online classes connect homeschooled children with peers globally, expanding their social circles beyond geographical boundaries. Isn't this such an exciting fact? Not only do homeschooled children get to meet people in their community, but they have the opportunity to meet other people and children all around the world!


Misconceptions About Homeschool Socialization

Myths Unveiled: Dispelling Common Misunderstandings

Limited Social Exposure:

  • Reality: Homeschooled children often engage in a broader range of social activities than their traditionally schooled peers, interacting with individuals of various ages and backgrounds. Our homeschooled children, not only participate with their age groups, but everyone! My children, in particular, can engage with almost anyone! I contribute that to the fact that they are exposed to everyone! They are not stuck in a classroom full of only their age group. I love that so much! Whether they are talking to someone twice their age or a great deal younger, or older, they can talk to anyone!


Lack of Peer Interaction:

Homeschooled children on a hay ride during a field trip
  • Reality: Homeschooled children frequently participate in group activities, sports, and classes, providing ample opportunities for peer-to-peer connections. Yes! People seem to think that just because they are learning at home, that means that they don't interact with their peers. If I can tell you anything... this is not true! Homeschooling is what you make it ! We choose to have playdates, plan parties, participate in sports, all the things that involve our children with their peers. Our homeschooled children are allowed to be children and not expected to walk in a single filed line, not speaking. They are allowed to be kids, they are allowed to have friends. They are allowed to play, learn, and socialize with other children!


Social Awkwardness:

  • Reality: Homeschooled children often develop strong communication skills, as they interact with adults and peers in diverse settings, fostering adaptability. In our day to day activities, my children come into contact with so many people. From their Co-ops to our trips to the store, my children interact with so many people on a daily basis! Not only can my children talk to people their own age, but they can interact with people twice their age. They are not put into a box. They are allowed to freely interact with others, and this is such a wonderful thing. Not coming from a homeschooled background (my husband and I attended public school) I just couldn't understand this. This is the most amazing concept to me. Growing up, I only associated with people my own age, or close to it, it is astonishing to me that my own homeschooled children (age range 1.5yrs-7yrs) are less socially awkward than I am!

Isolation from Society:

  • Reality: Homeschooled children actively contribute to their communities, volunteering, and engaging in social initiatives, breaking down the stereotype of isolation. This is by far, one of the biggest myths I have ever heard. Speaking from experience, homeschooled children, for the most part, are far from social isolation! I am not saying that it has never happened, but I am saying that homeschool is what you make it. Get involved in the things, go to the events, go to the playdates, go to the co-ops. Not only will this help your homeschooled children, but it will help you as well! As a society, we have become isolated, so don't blame that on homeschooling alone.


Additional Talking Points on Homeschool Socialization

Navigating Social Waters: Additional Considerations

Embracing Differences:

  • Homeschooling allows children to interact with a diverse range of people, fostering an appreciation for individuality and promoting tolerance. I touched on this a little bit earlier, but our homeschooling experience has allowed for our children to interact with a broad arrangement of peoples. I will speak from experience and say that my children can talk to anyone. That, in my opinion, is because they have never known any different! Be kind and respectful to anyone, no matter what the age!


Real-World Learning:

Homeschooled child milking a cow
  • Homeschooled children often engage in real-world experiences, from grocery shopping to community service, enhancing their social skills in practical settings. We experience these things daily! Once our schooling is over for the day, we participate in real-world experiences. My children know how to act and behave in everyday public settings.... because it is normal for them!

Customized Social Exposure:

  • Homeschooling families have the flexibility to tailor social experiences to their children's needs, ensuring a balanced mix of structured and unstructured interactions. From park dates to grocery store trips, we can customize our social exposure to our families' needs. This does not mean that everyday we go somewhere and do something. Some days, its good for the soul to regroup at home. Not coming from a homeschooled background, this concept was so foreign to my husband and I. Now that we have learned this, it is something, that we personally think is the most beautiful thing. It is ok to SLOW down. It is OK to take extra time with your kids! After all, they are only little once.


Life Skills Integration:

  • Socialization in homeschooling goes beyond peer interaction, emphasizing essential life skills such as communication, problem-solving, and conflict resolution. As touched on before, our homeschooled children can interact with a broad arrangement of people. From problem solving skills, to social interactions, these children have the ability to tackle anything that comes their way!


Beyond the Classroom, Into the World: A Socialization Triumph

Homeschooled children thrive in social environments that extend far beyond traditional classroom boundaries. By actively participating in diverse activities, engaging with various communities, and dispelling common misconceptions, homeschooling families empower their children with robust social skills. The world becomes their classroom, offering a rich tapestry of social experiences that contribute to their holistic development. In the end, it's not just about socialization; it's about cultivating well-rounded, adaptable individuals ready to navigate the complexities of the world. I am so proud to say that we are a homeschooling family! I look so forward to the many adventures that await! I am so excited to see the strong individuals that we are cultivating!!! I used to be so apprehensive when someone asked me about or homeschooling choice, but not anymore, I am proud of what we are doing! I am proud of our children and what we have accomplished so far!


Happy Homeschooling adventures from the Hill!

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